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SHOULD CHILDREN STUDY WHILE SICK? WHY REST MATTERS

A child is sick. A slight fever, weakness, a stuffy nose. It seems obvious—they need rest to regain strength.
But something inside whispers:
"At least let them read a book... or do some assignments. Just lying there doing nothing!"
Sounds familiar?

As parents, it’s as if we’ve signed an unspoken contract: if a child isn’t in school, they must spend their time productively.
Sick? A great opportunity to catch up on math!
Fever? Perfect, now they can finally finish that book!
And so, there they are—red-eyed, clutching a tissue—pretending that what they truly want most right now is to learn about Peter the Great's “window to Europe.”
But what if... they just lay there? Scrolled on their phone. Watched cartoons. Stayed in bed without any purpose.

Why Is It So Hard for Us to Accept a Child’s Need to Rest?

Because we've been conditioned to believe one simple idea:
"If you're not moving forward, you're falling behind."
We live in a world of constant productivity, where being "busy" means being valuable. Where even rest must serve as an investment in efficiency.
But children don’t know this—at least, not until we teach them.
Look at a child simply lying on the couch. They don’t feel guilty. They just exist. Breathe. Think. Stare at the ceiling.
Meanwhile, a parent's mind screams:
"They’re wasting time!"

Where Does Our Productivity Anxiety Come From?

Let’s think back to our own childhood.

  • If you sat around doing nothing, someone would inevitably say:
  • "Stop loitering—find something useful to do!"
  • If you were sick, your mom would remind you:
  • "If you’re not at school, you must have enough strength to study."
  • If you just wanted some quiet time, adults would ask in surprise:
  • "Are you feeling okay?"

We heard so often that inactivity is bad that we believed it with all our hearts.
And now, as adults, we can’t allow ourselves to just lie down and do nothing.
We work through illnesses, take laptops to bed, answer work emails with a 38°C fever—and then wonder why we’re so exhausted.
And, of course, we pass this mindset on to our children.

But Here’s the Paradox—Children Grow Regardless!

A child doesn’t stop developing just because they’re staring at the ceiling. Their brain doesn’t shut off. Their body isn’t "being lazy."
Everything within them continues to work, grow, and absorb information.
More than that, children don’t just need growth—they need recovery.
Rest calms their nervous system, reduces stress levels, and allows their body to activate natural healing mechanisms.
Even when they’re simply lying in bed, tracing patterns on the wallpaper, their mind is still processing experiences, analyzing information, and drawing conclusions.

Rest Is Not a Waste of Time—It’s Essential

What happens if we don’t allow children to rest?
If every time they get sick, we say,
"Since you’re home, make the most of it!"
— they will grow up viewing rest as something unnatural.
They will start to believe that if they’re not productive, something is wrong with them.
That rest equals laziness.
That relaxation is only allowed once everything is done (which, of course, is never).
And one day, as adults, they’ll come home at 11 p.m., berating themselves for not learning a new foreign word that day.
They’ll lie in bed with a 39°C fever, feeling guilty for not answering emails.
They’ll fall asleep thinking:
"I didn’t work enough today. I didn’t do enough. I’m not good enough."

Is This What We Want for Our Children?

So how do we give them the right to rest?
We start with ourselves.

  • Allow ourselves to do nothing sometimes.
  • Pause.
  • Put the phone down.
  • Sit in silence.

And most importantly—stop pressuring children when they’re simply sitting there.
Don’t force them to "do something useful" while sick.
Don’t say things like, "You might as well read since you’re lying down anyway."
The best thing we can do is simply say:
"You’re sick. You need to rest. Don’t think about school, tasks, or responsibilities. Just lie down, watch cartoons, sleep whenever you feel like it. Your body knows how to heal itself."
A child won’t grow up lazy just because they spent a few days in bed instead of reading a textbook.
But they will grow up understanding that rest is not laziness.
That taking care of themselves is necessary.
That a person’s worth is not measured by the number of tasks completed in a day.
And isn’t that the most important lesson of all?